In the U.K., a matchmaking site offers to help male Muslims who may be seeking as a “first wife” women who are both virgins and under the age of 35, two characteristics that the website assures customers make the best “first wives.” Furthermore, it offers advice on how to make a wife “behave” and not “disobey” her husband, by beating her, albeit “lightly” at first, and if she remains disobedient, then gradually increasing the force used to make her behave. A Muslim feminist, Khadija Khan, some time ago denounced the dating website; you can read about her condemnation here.
Khadija Khan has launched a scathing attack on a Muslim dating website, condemning it as “wild, humiliating, disgraceful” and “an affront to women’s dignity.”
The Culture Editor at A Further Inquiry told GB News that the site represents “religious misogyny in its most blatant form”.
True, it does represent “religious misogyny.” And it does not “misrepresent” it, as some apologists for Islam might claim. The dating website is fully in accordance with orthodox Islam. Muslim men like their wives, and especially their first wives, to be virgins (it’s only the white English girls whom Muslims in the U.K. love to thoroughly debauch) when they marry them. Muslim men, of course, are free to have, at any time, all the sexual partners they wish. Different strokes, it seems, for different folks.
Females and males are treated differently in Islam. It is Khadija Khan who pretends, or more likely has convinced herself, that what she abhors is not the “real Islam.” But a Muslim woman’s testimony is worth half that of a Muslim man. A Muslim daughter normally inherits half of what a Muslim son inherits. A Muslim husband can divorce his wife merely by uttering the triple-talaq; a Muslim woman can divorce her husband only after complicated and often expensive proceedings. A Muslim man can marry up to four wives; a Muslim woman must be content with one husband. Finally, a Muslim man is allowed to “beat” his wife — albeit “lightly” at first — if he even suspects her of disobedience. Khadija Khan, though furious, refuses to attack the source of the misogyny she detects at the dating site and so energetically deplores— the texts and teachings of Islam itself.
The controversy centres on NikkahGram, a UK-registered Muslim matchmaking service that advertises virgin brides and polygamous marriages.
The site, which has been operating since 2023, describes itself as a service for Muslim men seeking a “shy, untouched spouse” and those wanting multiple wives….
In helping men to find more than one wife, NikkahGram is encouraging the violation of English law, which prohibits polygamy. It advises men practicing polygamy not to let the authorities know, but to keep such information within the community of believers.
Khan told GB News: “It’s wild, humiliating, disgraceful. It’s an affront to women’s dignity.
“Whatever this site is promoting, it’s not just misogynyit’s religious misogyny in its most blatant form. We are condemning these things because we find them abhorrent, appalling, and fundamentally opposed to gender equality.
But what Khadija Khan thinks should be banned is allowed in Islam. Will you forthrightly denounce an Islamic practice — polygamy — as “not only against British law but an affront to the dignity of women”?
“However, we need to understand that this website claims it is promoting religious values, and that what they are doing is in line with their religious beliefs. We need to look deeper into this issue.
“Under the pretext of religious freedom, certain sections of society have been given far too much leeway to live according to their cultural and religious belief soften in direct disregard of the law of the land, British values, and fundamental human rights principles.
Khadija Khan has dared to say it: some of the “cultural and religious beliefs” of “certain sections of society” (i.e., Muslims) are indeed in “direct disregard of the law of the land” and of “fundamental human rights principles.” She is calling for those who violate British law to be sanctioned — no doubt she wants NikkahGram banned from the Internet.
Khadija Khan calls for preventing Muslims from fully putting into practice their religious beliefs, blasting the religion’s inherent misogyny in allowing plural wives, and in permitting men to “beat their wives,” as Qur’an 4:34 says, if they even suspect them of “disobedience.”
The question is: will she now dare to say flat-out that those “religious beliefs” are not some “wild” heterodoxy, but standard Islam? Will she say that Muslims living in the U.K. must conform to its laws, and therefore cannot practice polygamy? Will she say that Muslim husbands have no right to physically discipline their wives, as that is contrary to British law, whatever Qur’an 4:34 says? Will she, finally, come out and say that whenever the Sharia — the Holy Law of Islam — conflicts with British law, it is British law that must prevail? Does Khadija Khan dare to defy the enforcers of Islam, whose treatment of apostates can be deadly?
Over two months have passed since Khadija Khan made these statements, and she has done none of those things.
࿗Infidel࿘ says
Yeah, Ms Khadija. Talk is cheap!
Rarely says
Cheap? Yes but sometimes very courageous. She probably has a target on her back. A pretty good first step.
࿗Infidel࿘ says
Let her openly declare, like really courageous people have before her, that she has apostatized from islam and is no longer muslim. As you noted, she already has a target on her back, so what difference would it make?
I have seen many muslim women on @X (including blue 🗹) declare that they are no longer muslim, and list a whole host of reasons why. That is what courage looks like!
After that, she can happily denounce this “dating” website all day long, and I for one will take her seriously
somehistory says
Only fools would try to get mixed up with the muzzie males for dating.
Like looking at a site which shows various vermin or dangerous predators for a pet.
somehistory says
And, there is no “holy law of islam” It’s all unholy, demonic evil.
mgoldberg says
I expect some Imam will call for her punishment soon enough, for disturbing the tranquility of the muslim society, and following that, will arrive her apology.
Isabella Hale says
UNHOLY MACARONI! Who in their right mind would go to a MUSLIM “DATING” SITE?
You mean MUSLIMS DATE? OMG just when I thought I had heard it all.
All I know is the Eli’s coming.. make that YESHUA and his name is not mohammud!
MARANATHA! Come Quickly Lord! Jesus. The world does feel like the world I remember any more.
Troybeam says
Flash money and the women come running, no self respect. Heard about a woman who married a Muslim man, he came home bent her over a table had his way no waring nothing, she in turn looked at the king size diamond on her hand & felt it was worth the price. No self respect either of them.
Non Islamic women have no business marrying a Muslim man, they will never be welcomed into the family as i have seen over and over again.
gravenimage says
Flash money and the women come running, no self respect.
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Most womn are nothing lke this–I’m not. And the main opponent here is a woman, Khadija Khan. Try again.
࿗Infidel࿘ says
I won’t say “most”, but there are too many infidel women of all religions that fall for this. Ironically, more often than not, they happen to be feminists who think that their own religion is patriarchal. Then they go on to marry muslim men and then discover what real misogyny is like
Tim gallagher says
Well of course it is misogynistic. Any woman who wants to avoid misogyny should ditch Islam since Islam is misogynistic to the core. Women, like all members of islam, live the 7th century arab life. For women they can be sure to be constantly pregnant, to be regularly beaten up by their knuckle dragging husband’s, etc.
gravenimage says
Muslim Dating Website Attacked as ‘Misogynistic’
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Well, kudos to Khadija Khan for taking a stand aganst pilygamy and wife beating–I hope the UK shuts down this site.
But, sadly, Khan is mistaken–this is all orthodox Islam.
࿗Infidel࿘ says
That’s what makes her denunciation hollow, since she’s denouncing something very islamic. She’s also pretending that these are just “cultural & religious beliefs”, as opposed to qur’anic edicts there that anyone can read
I’ve seen others do it online – better. First, they declare that they are no longer muslims, and then they go on to list out why, whether it’s the misogyny or the religious bigotry or whatever. Then they go on to denounce whatever it is they’re denouncing
There is just one small flaw in their approach: they typically retain their muslim names, leading either infidels to believe that they’re still muslim, or muslims to believe that they are “betraying” islam. What they should do as a part of converting is change their names to one of the new faith they’re following, or just a standard name in their country if they are atheist or agnostic
abu taleb says
Seems like muslims and Islam apologists never notice that Islam says women should do such and such things, but hardly ever say what men should do toward their women except “treating the women well”
by providing food and clothes, and don’t take back the dowries that have been given tthe women and what punishment for the men if they fail their duties.
It is very much one sided for the men’s advantage, but muslims fail to see that. EIther the muslims are idiot or are evil.
Hank says
Khadija Khan forgot to mention FGM. The misogyny practiced by Islam. Muslim women are already robbed at birth by Islam. Its really a disgusting, satanic cult.
OLD GUY says
Let’s face facts, Islam is a male dominated cult. Women under Islam are nothing but property to be used, abused and discarded when the man decides he no longer needs or wants her.
That being said, why any women with a brain and the ability to use it, is so hard up that they will fall for an islamic man is unbelievable. In Islam ladies you become a slave wife sexually and other wise.
Winston 101 says
You cannot stand in a river and criticize the river for getting you wet.
You can stand in a river and complain about being wet.
You are, at least, acknowledging the source of your getting wet.
Ultimately, if you do not wish to be wet, you must get out of the river.
I wish you continued progress.