Boston Marathon bomber Dzhokhar Tsarnaev was back in the news in mid-December appealing to get his death penalty overturned. This recalls to mind a piece that was written last year — I suspect with considerable help in the actual composition — by Youssef Eddafali, a Moroccan immigrant, and published in the Boston Globe, about his friendship with Dzhokhar Tsarnaev here.
I first met Dzhokhar “Jahar” Tsarnaev in seventh grade, on the basketball court at the Cambridge YMCA in Central Square, where I played on weekdays and in a Saturday league. He went to the gym to use the weight room and shoot around. I disregarded him — he sucked at basketball.
Basketball helped me feel like an American, instead of a Muslim whose single mother dragged him here from Morocco looking for a better life, then worried constantly that we wouldn’t find it. Before basketball, I didn’t really fit in. I wasn’t particularly smart or witty. Worse, I had started second grade in Cambridge the very same month that the Twin Towers fell. On the playground, kids would call me “sand [expletive]” “Saddam Hussein’s son,” or “Abu,” after Aladdin’s monkey. One kid nicknamed me “Unicef,” which was brilliant, in a way: It rhymed with my name, and alluded to my African heritage, financial situation, and emergent unibrow. When we were a little older, kids would come up to me, place fake “bombs” on my body and then run away making ticking noises. I got into a fair amount of fights until my mother, who worked three jobs, told me I had to stop. Even if it meant saying nothing when bullies taunted me, I had to exercise self-control. It felt completely debilitating.
The victimization theme begins at once: kids calling him names: “sand [expletive],” “Saddam Hussein’s son” [this sounds implausible], “Abu,” “Unicef.” These “bullies taunted him,” (plea for sympathy), but his mother, who “worked three jobs” (another plea for sympathetic admiration), told him to exercise self-control. He did.
My mom always made me stay in the apartment until I finished my homework. But she agreed that as long as I kept my grades up, I could play basketball after school. I began spending hours on courts across Cambridge. This freedom allowed me to meet a slew of people who helped me develop as a young man and truly feel a part of the culture of Cambridge. As I improved, I gained confidence, sociability, and friends.
I met Jahar [the name by which “Dzhokhar” was known, and is used throughout this piece] again in high school, when we enrolled in the same lifeguarding course in my sophomore year, his junior year. Lifeguards were paid well for minimal effort: You sit in a chair and watch people swim, or so we thought. We were actually terrible swimmers, but our teacher stressed that if we failed during a rescue attempt, people could die. So we learned how to breathe while swimming with our heads in the water, and swam endless laps to get in shape. We took turns “drowning” at the bottom of the pool, holding our breath and waiting to be “rescued.” Jahar and I learned to trust one another in the pool — and that trust soon extended beyond class. After we became certified, a group of us from the class applied to be lifeguards at Harvard University during the summer of 2010. To our surprise, we each landed positions.
Jahar and I became part of a small group that would gather at “808,” a tall apartment building off Memorial Drive overlooking the Charles River. After dark, we frequented a party spot nearby that we referred to as the Riv. We were all classmates, peers, co-workers, and good friends who shared common interests. We called ourselves the Sherm Squad. We didn’t know that “Sherm” referred to Nat Sherman cigarettes dipped into liquid PCP (I didn’t even know what PCP was). All we knew was the word Sherry had a negative connotation. We used it to mean someone who messed up a lot; we called it being a Sherm. I felt Jahar and the Sherm Squad accepted me unconditionally; they became my home base of friends, almost an adopted family.
My real family’s life centered on Islam. I was raised to follow the teaching of the Koran and the five pillars of Islam, which boil down to self-discipline, love for yourself and toward others, and growing your relationship with God. We typically went to the mosque on Prospect Street twice a week, plus whenever my mother forced me to come to some event she’d volunteered for. I never looked forward to it. Men and women separate when they enter the mosque, which drove home my lack of a father or other male role models (I have an older brother, but we haven’t talked in years). So I would sit by myself or with someone else I knew who didn’t want to be there, engaging only when the call for prayer was sung.
Here Youssef tells us that he was “raised to follow the teaching of the Koran and the five pillars of Islam.” He then offers the standard line that many Muslim apologists routinely supply: that the essence of Islam is “self-discipline, love for yourself and toward others, and growing your relationship with God.” Really? Love “toward others” ? All others? Isn’t it really love for other Muslims, and inculcated hatred of all non-Muslims? Did Youssef never run across the verse that commands Muslims never to take Christians and Jews as friends, “for they are friends only with each other”? Or any of those 109 Jihad verses in the Qur’an? Did he never read the verse describing Muslims as “the best of peoples” and non-Muslims as “the most vile of creatures”? Did he not notice, in the Qur’an, the 109 verses about engaging in violent Jihad, with several of them also commanding Muslims to “strike terror” in the hearts of the Infidels? The Cambridge Mosque has been a source of worry to the security services for some time; at least 10 suspected or convicted terrorists attended the mosque. Youssef says nothing about the content of any of the imam’s khutbas, or Friday Sermons, that he must have heard. Nor does he allude to the many terrorists who attended the mosque on Prospect Street as possibly reflecting, or contributing to, a general atmosphere of “extremism.” One would have thought those matters most relevant to investigating the mental trajectory of Dzhokhar Tsarnaev.
One Friday near the end of sophomore year, my mother yelled at me to go to prayer.
When I walked in, I did a double take — Jahar was sitting there, listening intently to the imam. We had been hanging out all that year and he had never mentioned being Muslim. I picked my way through the large crowd sitting on the patterned carpet and squeezed into a spot next to him. “What are you doing here?” I whispered. “You’re not supposed to be here!”
He chuckled and whispered back: “I’ll tell you after.”
After we prayed, he told me his family were also Muslim immigrants who expected him tp be a model Muslim. We both were trying to maintain an image as wholesome Muslim youths at home while being normal American teenagers away from it.
Balancing our family and American lives was stressful. As a junior, I played point guard on Cambridge Rindge and Latin School’s famed basketball team, and Jahar, a senior, was the wrestling team’s co-captain. During the fierce month of Ramadan or on the fast day before Eid al-Adha, the Feast of the Sacrifice, we might endure grueling sports workouts on empty stomachs and no water. At least we could complain to each other.
Maintaining separate Muslim and American lives sometimes meant keeping secrets from and even lying to those closest to us about our other life. We were shamed just for being Muslim by strangers, the media, and even some of our peers, just as our Muslim families shamed us when we were caught committing a sin. Jahar and I shared countless hours toking herb, hanging out, and hitting social events. We lived near each other, and often walked home together from parties. We’d hit Cambridge Street, dap each other up with a handclap and bro hug, then head off to our Muslim lives.
Again, there is the victimization theme: “We were shamed just for being Muslim by strangers, the media, and even some of our peers.” This is flatly untrue. The media have bent over backwards in this country to offer up a sanitized Islam, ignoring what is in the Qur’an and hadith, never mentioning anything about the many commandments to conduct Jihad, avoiding anything disturbing in the life of Muhammad, that Perfect Man and Model of Conduct. How did those “strangers” supposedly shame him? Tell us please. We have many cases of Muslims claiming to be the victims of “hate crimes” which upon investigation turned out either to have been staged or never took place. A few egregious examples from 2014 can be found here, and from 2004 here.
He was fun to be around — always cracking jokes, coming up with things to do. He was smart, warm, respectful, and a good listener; and many of us admired his ability to “code switch,” moving effortlessly between social crowds and people of different races. He was also adept academically, holding his own in honors and Advanced Placement classes. He was generous, too. Whenever I ran short of funds, he’d give me money for lunch and crack “Stop being a broke boy!” in a way I found endearing.
Sometimes, when we were hanging out, he’d get calls from his older brother, Tamerlan, telling him to get home. Jahar mostly heeded these requests without question. (He admired his older brother, and I envied their seeming closeness.) At one point, Jahar told me that his family was arranging a marriage for him and he was considering it. All I could say was, “Well, it’s your life, bro.”
In senior year, my priorities were playing basketball, finding the right college, my fantasy basketball team, girls, watching the Celtics, partying with friends, the prom, and making sure to get my homework done. In the secular, diverse melting pot that is Cambridge, I had my American life at school and my Muslim life at home. Adhering to the tenets of Islam, especially the daily prayers, was a struggle, and it didn’t help that Jahar, one of my main confidantes, was off at college.
My mother still expected me to act like a strict Muslim, even though by now I was really only going to the mosque on the major holy days. She forbade me from attending “unwholesome” social gatherings, including school dances and any event held at the home of a female. I was not to swear, use drugs or alcohol, or flirt, among other vices. My mother knew little of what I actually did when I left the house, since I usually climbed out my bedroom window after she had gone to bed. But she often guessed at what I was up to, and frequently berated me as unworthy.
I was much more interested in my American life, where religion was immaterial. You were judged on your social standing, whether your personality added life to the party, and how you expressed yourself through fashion or music. When Jahar was back from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth on breaks, it seemed like we picked up right where we left off, cruising the city with the homies in his green Honda, looking for a party. My future felt bright. I was going to attend Bentley University, and become an entrepreneur. I had fulfilled my mother’s American-immigrant dream of getting into college and building a real life in America.
This sounds as if both Youssef and Jahar were typical American kids, “cruising the city….looking for a party.” Youssef looks forward as the immigrant son of a mother (who works three jobs) to going to Bentley, and then becoming an “entrepreneur.” What could be more soothing, and less threatening?
During my freshman year at Bentley, I realized that I wasn’t sure I wanted to be in school. I took a leave during second semester and went back to Cambridge.
I was at a friend’s house on April 15, 2013, when the bombs went off on Boylston Street. We ended up on a nearby rooftop, watching the commotion — the helicopters scouring the city and flashing police lights everywhere. I felt angry and under attack. I wanted the monsters who had committed this atrocity to get what they deserved.
On the 19th, I was at another friend’s house and still up at 3 a.m. when I got a call. “Turn on the news!” my friend said. They were broadcasting a photo of the possible suspects in the Boston Marathon bombing. “Just look at the picture, fam,” he said to me.
I looked at the blurry image on screen. “What am I supposed to be looking at, bro? I don’t know who that is.”
“Yo, doesn’t he look like Jahar!”
I thought that was outrageous. I fell asleep on the couch, and the next morning I woke up to see my friends huddled around the TV. I had never seen kids my age so absorbed in the morning news. I wondered if maybe a late spring snowstorm was approaching. They told me Cambridge residents had been asked to stay inside, and it did sort of feel like a snow day.
Suddenly, Jahar’s face appeared on the screen — there was no mistaking him this time. He was the bombing suspect still at large, the anchors said. Aside from the sound crackling on the TV, the room was dead silent. I felt like 10,000 volts of electricity were coursing through my body. It had to be a mistake. The Jahar I knew wouldn’t even do something mean, let alone commit an act of terrorism.
How many times have neighbors and friends of terrorists expressed their astonishment that such a (kind neighbor, swell fellow, regular guy) could do such a thing?
One of the girls’ cellphones rang; the call was from a TV newsroom where her sister’s friend was working. As our friend answered questions, her name appeared on the screen and we heard her voice come from the television. Within minutes, the doorbell rang. Our high school principal came into the house, along with two FBI agents wearing bulletproof vests. The FBI agents said they were looking for Jahar, and collected our cellphones. They had us sit in the living room and pulled us into the kitchen one by one to question us.
It didn’t take long for one of the FBI agents to step in the room and say, “To save time, which one of you knew him the best?” I raised my hand. In the kitchen, they asked what I knew about the bombing — nothing — where I thought Jahar was, whom he might try to contact. I answered their questions as best I could, and then they left.
Much later on that surreal day, a group of us were walking around Central Square, saying almost nothing. A pizza shop had its TV on, and that’s where we saw a news update: A body had been found in a boat in Watertown, it said. Though we’d later learn he’d been captured alive, at that moment we believed our friend was dead. I remember a man riding toward us on his bike screaming like some sort of modern-day Paul Revere: “They caught him! They caught the bomber!”
This infuriated us, and we started screaming insults and epithets at him. I’ll never forget his shocked expression. That’s probably how most people reacted over the next few days when some of us defended Jahar, saying he was a good kid. But really, that’s the Jahar we knew.
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Soon we knew the facts of the despicable acts Jahar committed with his brother, Tamerlan. We witnessed the heartbreak and loss suffered by those they hurt and by the families of those they killed. Jahar left behind an ocean of pain that is still washing across my city, and my country, sowing hatred and division between people who hardly know each other’s lived reality. Jahar wounded those he grew up with as well as millions who practice a religion he perverted with his crime. He made suspects of everyone who knew him.
“The religion” — Islam — that Jahar supposedly “perverted with his crime” in fact was being followed dutifully by the Tsarnaev brothers. Certainly the older brother knew the Qur’anic verses that call for violent jihad and striking terror — let’s repeat them again here: 2:190-194, 4:89, 8:12, 8:60, 9:5, 9:29,47:4 — and would have made his younger brother well aware of them as well. This was not an inexplicable attack, one impossible to fathom. It was only one of more than 33,000 terror attacks by Muslims since 9/11. What motivated Jahar and Tamerlan Tsarnaev were the same Islamic teachings that motivated the terrorists responsible for attacks in New York, Washington, Minneapolis, Fort Hood, Little Rock, San Bernardino, Orlando, and in many other places in the United States; these were the same verses that motivated the terrorists who in Europe have attacked Infidels in Madrid, Barcelona, Paris, Nice, Toulouse, Magnanville, London, Manchester, Brussels, Amsterdam, Berlin, Munich, Copenhagen, Stockholm, Malmö, Helsinki, St. Petersburg and Beslan.
Jahar put our safety and freedom in direct peril. Cambridge gave way to the real world, a place where I found myself feeling clueless. Like many of my friends, I did not have easy access to a lawyer. Later, I would realize I didn’t have access to what I needed even more: medical advisers, counselors, or therapists. Some of our mutual friends made bad choices and ended up in jail.
Again there is the theme of being victimized, helpless without a lawyer. He feels sorry for himself, because Jahar “put our safety and freedom in direct peril.” Never mind about Martin Richard and the others who were killed. As for those “mutual friends” who made “bad choices,” why not tell us what those “bad choices” were? Youssef is referring to three friends of Tsarnaev, who on his instructions went to his room and took away evidence — a backpack and a laptop — then disposed of the backpack in a dumpster (but keeping the laptop). For obstructing justice in a murder investigation, and they certainly knew that Dzhokhar Tsarnaev was guilty — they received between two and six years. “Bad choices” is far too vague and far too kind.
In the fall of 2013, I returned to Bentley to start my second semester, but I was still struggling to cope with the aftermath of the bombing, the FBI calls and questions. I felt guilty I even knew Jahar, after what he’d done. I was ashamed about what had happened to his victims — I still feel terrible for them. It feels awful that innocent people were hurt by a person I cared so deeply for.
But why doesn’t Youssef ever feel the need to find out what caused Jahar to act as he did? Why hasn’t he done the obvious, what anyone of sense would naturally do, which is go to the Islamic texts, and start studying the Qur’an and at least some of the hadith? He knows the significance of the Qur’an for Muslims. But apparently he still hasn’t done that. He speaks of Jahar as if his behavior were an impenetrable mystery, when it is clear which Qur’anic commands he must have read and taken to heart, and then, on the urging of his fanatical big brother, joined him in putting those commands into effect by making that murderous pressure-cooker bomb and placing it on Boylston Street.
That November after the bombing, three days before midterms, the FBI interrogated me for five hours, as far as I could tell simply because I had been friends with Jahar. I had nothing to tell them; I still felt betrayed by him, and knew he deserved the full brunt of the judicial system. After that interview, I found myself completely unable to focus on my studies. I asked my professors for extensions, but all of them made me take my midterms. I failed several of them, and soon after I took another leave.
This time I entered a downward spiral of addiction, insomnia, severe stomach pains, and depression, which fed off each other. I didn’t sleep more than a couple of hours a night for months. I felt paranoid and distrustful in every social interaction. Every aspect of my American life I had had to figure out on my own, and it seemed as though I hadn’t figured out anything at all. I felt like I had fallen behind my peers, unable to compete with their intelligence, their access, their privilege.
I was exhausted from maintaining multiple, often conflicting identities as a Muslim-American, from not being Muslim enough for my family, but too Muslim to feel secure in a hostile, post-9/11 environment. It was soul crushing; I felt I had lost touch with the person and identity I fought for years to establish. It got to the point where I could no longer follow a normal conversation. I lost around 25 pounds, and the ability to play basketball, which had been my sanctuary.
The suggestion of victimization is palpable: he was “too Muslim to feel secure in a hostile, post-911 environment.” Just how “hostile” was his environment? There were plenty of reassuring messages of support to Muslims after the Boston Marathon bombing; everyone was competing to relieve any anxiety Muslims might have felt, and to express solidarity with them. Youssef doesn’t mention any of that, though it certainly was a remarkable and quite unnecessary response. He also makes no mention of any hostile acts against him, because there weren’t any. He clearly feels, nonetheless, sorry for himself, given his “downward spiral of addiction, insomnia, severe stomach pains, and depression” and inability “to focus on my studies.”
I can’t claim to know why Jahar took the murderous path he did, although I spent years lying awake at night tortured by these thoughts, searching every corner of my brain for clues.
Really? Youssef has no idea at all as to “why Jahar took the murderous path he did”? Not a clue? In all these years of “lying awake” and trying to figure out why Jahar engaged in murderous terrorism, he never felt the need to consult the Qur’an, read what it says about Jihad and “striking terror” in the hearts of Infidels? Wouldn’t you have thought he might have done an Internet search for the words “Qur’an” and “terror” at the same time, to see what comes up? It would have taken exactly five seconds for him to have on the screen the Qur’anic verses justifying terrorism. He makes no mention anywhere in his piece about reading the Qur’an to find out what it says about terrorism. Yet we are asked to believe that he still lies away at night “tortured by these thoughts, searching every corner” of his brain for clues. A remarkable display of deliberate avoidance. He wants to figure out why Dzhokhar did what he did, just as long as it has nothing to do with wonderful Islam.
After Jahar’s trial started in March 2015, it seemed as though his face was on TV everywhere I went. I avoided coverage of it. I have not contacted him and I don’t think I will ever try. Eventually, I started reading books on nutrition and psychology. I changed my diet, and started practicing mindfulness meditation. I began playing basketball again, and started lifting weights, providing an outlet for my pain and anger. I started writing in a journal, which became my therapy, since it hurt more to leave my thoughts scrambling in my head than to put them on paper. I also practiced my faith — I believe Islam was built on peace and spreading positivity in the world — though I consider myself an imperfect Muslim. This practice grounds me daily. Still, it’s taken me years to crawl out of my hole.
There are three possibilities to consider in the case of Youssef Eddafali v. The Truth About Islam. First, the writer may really be ignorant of much of the Qur’an, with its clear commandments to wage Jihad and to “strike terror” in the hearts of the Infidels. But his prose doesn’t sound like it comes from an ignoramus. Second, he may choose deliberately to avert his eyes from those verses, as he so clearly wants to hold onto his faith, whatever it takes, whatever reality he must ignore in order to do so. There is of course the obvious third possibility: that Youssef knows full well what Islam inculcates, but refuses to acknowledge what that is to an audience of Unbelievers, whom he wishes to keep both in the dark, and whistling. It is hard to accept that Youssef, who must surely have some knowledge of Islam beyond the Five Pillars, can really believe that “Islam was built on peace and spreading positivity in the world.” If he so badly misunderstands Islam, then he is a fool. Islam was built on war, not peace, and as for Islam “spreading positivity,” you can be sure that the ghosts of two hundred million innocent victims of Jihad, including 70-80 million murdered Hindus, might beg to differ. If he knows the truth, then he is not a fool, but a malign deceiver. You decide.
The truth is, Jahar and I had a lot in common. Until we didn’t. In high school, especially, we led double lives; conforming to the expectations of our families while denying the “otherness” constantly thrown in our faces. It meant keeping secrets from our families. Ultimately, I learned the secrets he had kept from me.
What secrets? That for quite a while he harbored thoughts of killing Infidels, thoughts put into his head by what he learned from the Qur’an and hadith, thoughts continually reinforced by his own brother? And all the while he was acting outwardly like a regular American kid, practically a frat guy, always looking for the next party, doing all those things which, Jahar knew, even if they violated the rules of Islam, would be wiped away, forgiven by Allah, by a single act of Jihad martyrdom.
I believe that Youssef Eddafali undoubtedly had some help in the writing of this piece, either from someone at the Boston Globe, or from someone with a strong interest in presenting a sympathetic portrait of a young Muslim — possibly a public-relations consultant well-versed in such matters. Here is this splendid fellow, who has been on the receiving end of anti-Muslim hostility, despite having done nothing wrong, and for whom the evil committed by Dzhokhar Tsarnaev remains an unfathomable mystery. And this question supposedly haunts him. But he nowhere gives any evidence of consulting the Islamic texts, where he would quite quickly find the answer to that very question. He’s determined not to look in the place it makes the most sense to look: the Qur’an and Hadith.
This piece leaves one with deep unhappiness. It’s been more than six years since the Boston Marathon bombing — five when this piece was written. Youssef Eddafali had plenty of time to consider what must have motivated his friend Jahar to try to commit the mass murder of Unbelievers, and to “strike terror” in their hearts. But he hadn’t done that, hadn’t come forward to reveal that “my friend Dzhokhar must have taken to heart the 109 verses in the Qur’an that command violent Jihad.” He could have written that “I confess I did not know these verses, did not know that in a hadith Muhammad said ‘I have been made victorious through terror.’ In trying to understand what happened to Jahar, it become obvious to me I couldn’t any longer rely on what I had always been told, by my mom and some of my friends, that Islam means peace and positivity — I had to go to the Qur’an itself. And as I read it, I realized why Jahar thought he should act as he did — the Qur’an told him so, over and over again — but I think he was wrong. I think Tamerlan led him astray. I don’t think he understood those verses. He took them literally, and thought they applied to Unbelievers today. I don’t think so. I think they were meant to apply to certain enemies of the Muslims at the time the Qur’an was written down, in the 7th century. We always need to put such verses in their historical context.”
That’s one way Youssef might have handled the matter. Or he might have said: “Yes, the Qur’an tells Muslims to make war on Unbelievers. Jahar took those verses to heart, and that’s what made him become a murderer. Such verses as 2:190-194, 4:89, 8:12 8:60, 9:5, 9:29, 47:4 are not just valid for the 7th century, they’re valid for all time. And there are many more like those. And Muhammad himself said ‘I have been made victorious through terror.’ I’ve had five years to think about this, and I must have read the Qur’an a dozen times through, with a commentary, and many of the hadith and I can see no other honest explanation for his behavior. And as I came, reluctantly, to acknowledge this, I also rethought my own inherited faith. I now consider myself an ex-Muslim. My mom is not happy. Some of my friends don’t understand. And I live with the other consequence — the fear of what Muslims might do to me because of my apostasy. But at this point, if I am quite sincere with myself, I really can do no other.”